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Hi all. We have a person in rehab that thinks he knows it all. What I mean is that we have teachers here who have taught me how to live on my own and do things with me such as cooking, cleaning, pouring, etc. Then this one guy who's a resident here comes along and tries to criticise me because he doesn't like my method of cooking, nor pouring and some other things. I explained to him that that is the way I was taught here and I'm going to stick with that. I also told him that I listen to know one besides my instructors when it comes to independence training. In his defense he told me that the instructors here are teaching me wrong and that I should do everything his way because it's better. You know something, I don't see this guy having nor getting his degree in rehab teaching, nor do I see this guy even planning on doing that in the future. What my point is that some people think they know it all when they don't even have the skills to teach someone independants. My instructors have the degree, they know what they are doing, and they are the only ones that will tell me they don't like something I'm doing or tell me that I'm doing something wrong. Anyone else ever came across someone like this?
Troy
Yes. give 'em a slap.
And why are they so bothered. Are their any implications for the person who is complaining about the way you do things? You should listen to other people who are trying to help you as well as your instructers.
And give 'em a slap afterwards.
Well, on one hand this guy sounds annoying but on the other hand you should always consider all suggestions. Someone may have a better way of doing things and just because he/she isn't certified doesn't mean that way of doings things may not work better for you. I've sometimes had better luck learning from friends or family than from an orientation instructor and vice versa. So, give the suggestions a chance before you turn the guy down for not haing a degree. Heck, after all Bill Gates was a high school drop out with no degree and, well, he's more successful than most of us eehm all dare I say, speaking from a purely financial perspective.
But, make sure to slap the man .. hard ;)
Troy I would imagine this eejit is confusing the hell out of you.. and why have your instructors allowed this guy to interfere in your rehab, the whole situation is ludicrous he's obviously untrustworthy, highly critical and if you weren't so confident,I'd be concerned about the detrimental effect of his continual sniping....I'd put in a complaint before he destroys the self esteem of someone less able..
Troy I would imagine this eejit is confusing the hell out of you.. and why have your instructors allowed this guy to interfere in your rehab, the whole situation is ludicrous he's obviously untrustworthy, highly critical and if you weren't so confident,I'd be concerned about the detrimental effect of his continual sniping....I'd put in a complaint before he destroys the self esteem of someone less able..
oh I dunnow about putting in complaints .. lets not forget that there is often more than one way of doing something, and one way doesn't work the same for everyone, so while maybe it might be an idea to talk to this guy about the way he comes across, I wouldn't dismiss his ideas straight away.
the line "I should do things his way or its wrong" says a lot, is this guy perhaps a control freak? he sounds to me from your post at least, to be very insecure and desperate to make his mark, I can't see anything beneficial in that..
I have to agree. There is nothing wrong with suggesting a different way; after all, as someone else has said, I've quite often learned better from friends then instructors, however, he needs a lesson in tact. There is a right way and a wrong way to make a suggestion, and he's clearly doing it wrongly. I'd try talking to him first, if that doesn't work I would file a complaint because of the way he's going about it. And keep in mind, a degree doesn't necessarily mean they know it all the right way. *smile*
No don't complain confront the matter yourself for goodness sake, there's an outside world with noone to complain to when someone criticises you who will effectively deal with it. That is why you deal with things so minor as this yourself.
Yeah I've had that in high school. My ed counselor was like that. She would come in and teach me how to write cursef writing when I was really taught how to print. I'm like ok lady, stop confusing the hell out of me! Then what makes it so bad, I don't like the way she shows me cause it feels like she's scribbling with me.
It's never a bad idea to take in account other suggestions of doing things. There is no one right way of doing anything. There is usually maybe more then one way but each way is different for each person. If this guy is studing rehab services then you need to let it go and let him use you as a practice tool. I'm not in school yet, and I work with the disabled twice a week, but I always keep a open mind on suggestions. So if I'm doing something wrong, instead of taking it the wrong way, I let people help me. So I wouldn't blow it out of proportion. I'd sit back and just let him do his thing. If he's doing this to other people and they're just as annoyed then I'd say talk to the instructor. They (or the center in question.) might have a resoning of him being there. He might be a intern/extern there and need the hours and if this is so, then he is working with staff helping them with students. But I really don't see why complaining here is gonna help you.
Hear hear.
I don't like kno it alls heehhe.
Yes but it appears that sullydog is blind to the views of anyone who takes a different approach to himself. blind to the views of? ops! That's probably going to offend someone amongst the hypersensitive blind community isn't it? I really should choose my words more carefully, you know.
I should have said 'visually impaired to the views of' or some other such claptrap, or maybe that's patronizing as well? what is one to do? No wonder sighted people don't know what to say!
LOL.
Yeah I know it's ridiculous isn't it? i'd call it black humour but that would probably make me a racist.
It's like that episode of Alan Partridge where he's in the hotel singing "cut it black and pinky, mix with yellow chinky" then he stops and says to the cook "can you say that Michael?" "Aww yess, Mr Partridge, because ya see, it's a race of people, and it's a food!"
It's the same series where he's being taught by the cook, who used to be in the army, how to disarm a terrorist. Move! and fire! And move! And fire! and move! And Fire.... Michael what do you think you're doing! Okay the lawlord's lost his marbles.
LL, do you realize the millions of deaths you've just instantly caused because people died from offence? You know what I think of that? Hooray, more resources for me and less stupid people to put up with. Keep it up! LOL!
Well first I also hate these disdainful or arrogant kind of peole too. THey thing they know everything as mentioned, and that gets irritating, just for the fact that they either abuse of their knowledge or try and fail to appear or also believe bu are not sagacious.
In fairness Troy, I do know exactly what you mean. Although, it is hard to comment on your post, seeing as none of us have really observed this person in criticising you or your instructors. I agree with some of the above posts, saying that it is always good to have more than one oppinion and listening to different ways of doing things. All people are different, and one method might be brilliant for one person, and be crap for another. So it is worth trying or at least willingly listening to alternatives, as despite what you might think, they may just be better for you. However, I do know exactly what you mean, as certain people have a way of saying and doing things which their demeanour shows as 'I know best, you MUST listen to me'. And there is nothing worse than that! I would probably react the same as you in that scenario, as I hate 'know it alls' telling me what to do. The trick is for people to be diplomatic and constructive, and I am more willing to listen and take advice and suggestions! Just my little spin on things! But I would say, stick with what works for you! And if they get your back up too much... smack them one :)
I know people who think they know it all. I have a 9 year old sister who thinks she can check email, but I think she can't. I ask to help her, but she refuses to let me do it. Come on! She's nine years old, and she can't check email. So, I let her do her thing, and low and behold, she gets stuck,and I finally help her. know at alls are annoying, especially kids.
How do you know she can't check e-mail, if you don't seem to be letting her try. If you're nervous about a possible computer crash, I can understand, but otherwise ...
I am nervous about a possible computer crash. Also, I didn't know what email was at her age, and I didn't even use a computer. If I didn't know that stuff at 9 years old, than she wouldn't. Also, I'm worried about her reading my email and other files that are private. Knowing her, if she does, she'll tell mom.
okay?
I have friends that know a lot, but I don't call them know it alls. They use their knowledge to be able to help out with anything.
Another reason I think my sister's a know it all is because she thinks she can help me with my homework. It's college level and she can't help me with it. She's too young.
First of all, to the original post....listen to the man and try his ideas out if you want. They might work better for you. If you don't like doing it his way, you don't have to continue with it. However, I do worry about him saying that all of your instructors are teaching you incorrectly.
Secondly, I agree....give him a slap. LOL JK
And thirdly, download 87, you say that you didn't know about email and stuff at her age, or how to do stuff on the computer, so she wouldn't know how to do that stuff at the age of nine. Wrong answer! They are teaching kids about computers at a very young age now. I have a nephew, who is in kindergarten, who has a computer lab class.
How will kids ever learn to do stuff, if you don't encourage them to try things on their own?
Hey what the hell, my niece is 4years old, and she gets around the PC just fine.
Man. A lot has changed since I was nine. I feel so old! I don't encourage my sister on these things because I get this feeling that she's going to be smarter than me. Compared to her, I feel so dumb!